Umukobwa wo muri Afurika y’Epfo, Siyamthanda Mabizela, yagaragaje uko ubuzima bwe bwahindutse nyuma yo kumara imyaka itatu akundana n’umugabo umurusha imyaka 10 kandi ufite umutungo munini. Yavuze ko yinjiye muri uwo mubano yizeye ko uzamukura mu bukene, ariko aza gusanga amafaranga y’umukunzi we nta mutekano cyangwa amahoro amuha mu buzima asaba ko habaho kwigenga kw’abakobwa.
Inkuru ye yakuruye ibitekerezo byinshi ku mbuga nkoranyambaga. By’umwihariko, benshi bayifashe nk’isomo rikomeye ku rubyiruko, cyane cyane abakobwa batekereza ko gukundana n’umuntu ukize bishobora guhita bihindura ubuzima bwabo.
Ubuzima bw’agatangaza bwamuteye kwizera ko yabonye amahirwe
Mabizela yavuze ko yahuriye n’uyu mugabo afite imyaka 20 y’amavuko. Icyo gihe yari umunyeshuri utarafite akazi cyangwa ubushobozi bwo kwibeshaho.
Ku rundi ruhande, umugabo bakundanaga yari afite ubuzima buhamye. Yari afite inzu ebyiri muri Cape Town, imodoka ya BMW M4, impamyabumenyi ya MBA ndetse akora nk’umuyobozi mukuru muri kimwe mu bigo bikomeye by’ubucuruzi.
Kubera iryo tandukaniro ry’imibereho, Mabizela yavuze ko yatekereje ko abonye amahirwe yo kugera ku buzima yari yarahoraga arota.
Yagize ati: “Natekerezaga ko nabonye amahirwe adasanzwe. Nashakaga kuzamubera umugore kuko numvaga bizankura mu bukene kandi bikanzanira ubuzima bwiza bw’iteka.”
Nyuma yaho, yatangiye kumenyera ubuzima bwari bwuzuyemo amafunguro ahenze, amahoteli y’inyenyeri eshanu ndetse n’ingendo mpuzamahanga. Ibi byatumye arushaho kwizera ko uwo mubano uzamugeza ku ntego ze.
Amafaranga ntasimbura kwiyubaka no kwigenga
Nubwo ubuzima bwabo bwagaragaraga nk’ubutunganye, Mabizela yavuze ko yaje gusanga hari icyuho gikomeye mu marangamutima no mu iterambere rye bwite.
Yasobanuye ko uwo mugabo yamwerekaga urukundo binyuze mu mpano no kumujyana ahantu heza, ariko ntamufashe kubaka ubushobozi bwe bw’igihe kirekire.
Ati: “Yanjyanaga ahantu hahenze ariko ntiyigeze amfasha kubaka ubuzima bwanjye. Ntiyigeze anshyigikira ngo mbone uruhushya rwo gutwara imodoka cyangwa ngo angurire laptop.”
Nk’uko yabivuze, uko imyaka yagendaga ishira ni ko yarushagaho kwishingikiriza kuri uwo mugabo. Icyakora, ntiyabonaga inkunga yari kumufasha kwigenga no kwiteza imbere.
Gucana inyuma byarangiye bishegeshe uwo mubano
Mabizela yavuze kandi ko uwo mubano waranzwe no gucana inyuma inshuro nyinshi. Kubera iyo mpamvu, nyuma y’imyaka itatu yafashe icyemezo cyo kuwusoza.
Ati: “Navuye muri urwo rukundo nta kintu mfite, ariko nasigaranye amasomo akomeye y’ubuzima.”
Nyuma yo gutandukana, yahisemo gushyira imbaraga mu masomo no kwiyubaka aho gukomeza gutegereza ubufasha bw’undi muntu.
Kuri ubu, afite impamyabumenyi y’icyiciro cya gatatu cya kaminuza kandi abasha kwitunga. Avuga ko amahoro yo mu mutima afite uyu munsi aturuka ku kuba yarizeye ubushobozi bwe aho kwishingikiriza ku bandi.
Ubutumwa yageneye abakobwa bato
Mabizela yashishikarije abakobwa kubanza gushora imbaraga mu burezi no mu kwiyubaka mbere yo kwiringira urukundo rushingiye ku mutungo.
Yagize ati: “Kwigenga ni imbaraga. Iyo ufite amashuri n’amafaranga byawe, uba ufite ubushobozi bwo kuva mu mubano utakigufitiye akamaro.”
Yakomeje agira inama abakobwa gukunda no kubaha ubwabo mbere yo gushaka umutekano mu mutungo w’abandi.
Ati: “Urukundo rushobora kuza cyangwa rugashira, ariko hari amahirwe aza rimwe mu buzima. Hitamo kwiyubaka mbere.”
Abantu batandukanye batanze ibitekerezo byabo
Nyuma y’iyi nkuru, abantu benshi bagaragaje uko bayibonye.
Unathi Ndlovu yavuze ko amagambo ya Mabizela yamufashije gusobanukirwa akamaro ko kwiyubaka mbere yo kwinjira mu mibanire ikomeye.
Yagize ati: “Nanjye nkiri muto nakundanye n’umugabo washakaga ko twabyarana nkiri mu myaka 20. Ubu natandukanye na we kandi ndashaka kubanza kwiyubaka no kugira ibintu byanjye.”
Ku rundi ruhande, Tracy Bwalya yavuze ko Mabizela yagombaga no gutekereza ku hazaza he aho kwibanda cyane ku buzima bwiza yagaragarizwaga.
Ati: “Iyo aza kuba azi icyo ashaka mu buzima, yari gukoresha amafaranga yahabwaga yiteza imbere aho kwishimira gusa ingendo n’ubuzima bwiza.”
Buhle Joxo we yagaragaje ko gushaka bidakwiye gufatwa nk’inzira yo gukemura ibibazo by’ubukene.
Ati: “Abagore bakwiye kureka gutekereza ko gushyingirwa ari uburyo bwo gukira ubukene. Gushaka ni ubufatanye hagati y’abantu bafite intego n’indangagaciro bihuje.”
Iyi nkuru igaragaza ko umutungo ushobora gutanga ihumure ry’igihe gito, ariko ko kwiyubaka no kwigenga ari byo bitanga umutekano urambye. Abasesenguzi bavuga ko urubyiruko rukwiye gushyira imbere amashuri, ubumenyi n’imirimo ibafasha kwibeshaho.
Mu gihe imibanire ikomeje guhinduka, abakobwa n’abahungu basabwa kubaka ejo hazaza habo mbere yo gutegereza ko urukundo cyangwa umutungo w’undi muntu ari byo bizahindura ubuzima bwabo.
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